Yesterday, I posted two posts: one, I started the conversation that you become what you think about; the other was fat discussion. What appears as a contradiction isn’t. One is a character trait, one is a physical one. Let me clarify.

When we talk to ourselves, we do it wrongly. We aren’t truthful. We lie. We do it all the time. That is against the cardinal rule #1 of must remember rules: Never talk badly about yourself. Ever.

We shouldn’t say “I’m a lazy bum.” That’s a character trait. But to say “I am fat” that’s a physical trait and a truthful statement (if you are) and has nothing to do with WHO you are.

We dance around the truth when we should attack it if we don’t like it. We need to get angry at those character traits that cause us poor physical ones. (When I say get angry I’m talking about anger, not rage. Anger isn’t always bad. Rage *is* always bad.) One of those bad character traits is lying to ourselves.

First, I want to you stop listening to weight loss commercials (or any commercials for that matter). You can hear them; stop listening. They are trying to sell you something. They will lie to you to do it. They often do. There is no magic pill or potion that will make you less fat. You might lose weight (remember I said I don’t ever step on a scale) but you won’t lose the fat or you won’t feel good or you will be dependent on those pills. There are no shortcuts to being healthy, you either are or you aren’t. It’s your life.

So when I look at myself this morning I say “I am not a lazy bum, I am fat around the middle and I sure could feel better physically…and for that matter I could feel better about myself in general” that is as truthful a statement as I can make. I am not thinking “I am fat, I will never be skinny, I’m destined to be dumpy, etc..” The first is a truth, the rest are lies we tell ourselves as excuses for the truth we think we cannot change.

Does this make sense?

Also, if the physical trait is something you don’t like but cannot be changed (such as “I hate my nose”) I’ll get into that tomorrow.

Go learn something, would ya?